- Raising a boy as a single mom seems a heck of lot scarier than raising a girl. Motherhood is never easy and so many aspects of it are scary in general. Raising a boy as a single mom seems terrifying to me. I would be afraid that the point would come when I just didn't know how to relate or how to handle a boy. I would also fear that lack of an every day positive male influence. Of course, raising Josephine as a single mom is intimidating, too, but I am confident that I will be a good role model for her and she will be surrounded by strong female influences.
- I can be a role model for her. This is not to say that parent’s aren't role models for their children no matter the gender. I believe in the unique situation that I am in that it is necessary for Josephine to see that women can be strong and self-reliant. My hope in all of this is that Josephine will learn the value of an education and career for a woman. Whether she plans to have a career or be a stay-at-home mom, I want her to know that it is ultimately her choice. She will recognize, because of me, that she has the ability to take control of her own life and pursue what she loves so that she should never be reliant on anyone else for her happiness.
- Then there is the fun stuff: shopping, princesses, bows, tutus, hair, make-up, clothes, shoes, ballet classes, glitter, and everything else that comes along with being a girl mom. These little things make every day just a tad more fun. I love nothing more than picking out outfits with Josephine every day, and it’s only going to get more fun the older she gets.
- I have a forever friend. I was always told, “a son is a son till he takes a wife. A daughter is a daughter all her life”. Now, I know in many cases this is not true. In my own family, my brother and I are both very close to my parents. With a boy, though, the fear that he will marry and move on just seems more real. Being a girl mom has me more confident, even when she is grown, we will remain best friends, just as I have with my mom and she with hers. I totally envision a Lorelei and Rory Gilmore relationship in our futures;-)
- We can and will be inseparable! At this point in time, Josephine and I are each other’s whole worlds. She will grow up knowing that I was always there and did everything I could to make a good life for her, despite the choices of others. In thinking about the future we will have together, I can imagine all the things we will do and the experiences we can share together because she is a girl (vacations, spa weekends, movie night sleepovers in mama’s bed, mani/pedi dates, etc.). If I had a boy, I am not sure that we would be able to share all of those experiences. Sure, I would make memories with a son and make a good life for him, but I don’t think it would come with the ease and closeness that being a girl mom does.
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